Hello and welcome to day 11, of my 30 day Transformation.
And what a transformation it is becoming. I hope you are enjoying the series so far?
As always I would love your comments and experiences in your own life on Transforming and how my steps have help you so far in the programme?
Today we are going to look at something that most of us, all have trouble doing in our everyday lives.
That is Forgiveness.
Forgiving others, as well as ourselves is often the hardest part of being human.
The Nature of Forgiveness
Mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, instead of allowing anger toward them to eat away at us. Is a often a difficult practice to do.
The art of forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt depression and stress and leads to greater feelings of hope, peace, compassion and self confidence.
Practicing forgiveness leads to healthy relationships as well as physical health. It also influences our attitude which opens the heart to kindness, beauty, and love.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offences. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability.
Instead, forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger.
Research over the past few decades has revealed enormous personal benefits to forgiveness as well. According to that research, here are some of the most compelling ways forgiveness is good for us, our relationships, and our communities.
Forgiveness makes us:
Happier
Healthier
Sustains relationships, makes them stronger and can resolve conflict better
Boosts kindness and connectedness
Helps heal wounds
View forgiveness as something for you, not a gift to someone else. It will bring you peace, closure and reduce your suffering.
Negative feelings are both unhealthy and unproductive. If you want to forgive or to be forgiven, be willing to express how you're feeling to others and to yourself. Betrayed, caused pain, though frustration. Forgive yourself and all that you have done.
Always look at the silver lining. - what have you gained from this happening. Write down your personal benefits you have gained through the transgression.
Learn to cultivate empathy
Understand that forgiveness is a process, it takes time and energy to achieve and might not come easily.
It's a deep process of the heart - honour yourself and the emotions that you feel that comes up.
It is a trainable skill that we can all learn.
Love and life is what we need and stability. We need to respect it and use it regualary in every moment of our day.
Forgive what experiences you have had for yourself and forgive other in there actions.
The art of forgiveness is such a powerful thing to do, but so worth doing each and everyday.
It's the act of loving yourself and having a clearer understanding of who you are as a beautiful spiritual being living as a human being.
So today I want you to look over your life and experiences you have and forgive all that has happened, either by others or by your own doing. Forgive and then let it go, release it into the eather and keep doing it, until you eventually don't feel any emotional pull regarding it. Feel how your body feels with this pain and tension that has been kept deep within you.
Slowly spend the time working it out and letting it go.
A great way you can do this is by Meditating or inner reflection of what has happened and speaking to yourself in a calm loving and nuturing voice inside and acknowledging your feelings and emotions around it. Looking at the positive that the situation has taught you or can teach you and follow what feels right for you.
Try this today take a good 30mins or longer if you can and write down everything that you forgive, even if you don't feel like it at the moment and keep practising this exercise everyday for the same amount of time and keep adding to the list. Look and write down what these negative experiences next to each one and what are the personal benefits that you have gained through this frustration you have experienced.
This will make it a whole lot easier to let go, breath in and out deeply and when you breath out imagine that you are letting it all go, out of your body and into the ethos.
Let us know how you got on, how did you find this? Did you come up with some struggle? Please comment in the comment area below.
I hope this helps you to let go of any past mistakes, wrong doing and gives you back peace, love and happiness in its place.
To your success as always. See you tomorrow...
Much love,
Kelly